He Said: 

You’ve met that person who you are either dating or want to be with forever.  You’ve had sex and are looking for a way to spice things up a little bit more in your sex life and up comes the word that romantic comedies and sitcoms assume is on all straight men’s minds: threesome.

Ménage à trois. Devil’s threeway. Eiffel Tower. Whatever you want to call it, it is the act of three people initiating sex together.

Most see threesomes as something that could damage a relationship, or are just somewhere a couple should not go. Just like with couples watching porn together, if your relationship is strong, a threesome is nothing more than just another way to have sex.

It doesn’t mean that your sex life is stale or that you can’t please one another any longer, that’s a ridiculous thought. Instead, it means that you’re a couple willing to explore your sexuality and bring someone new into your relationship.

Is it dangerous in any way? Sure, there could be the chance that one or the other in a relationship might become smitten with the third person and it leads to cheating and similar, but that could happen by them just meeting other people or your friends.

That really shouldn’t stop anyone from engaging in a threesome. Sex with two other people sounds pretty cool to me.

Most men are turned on by the idea of a threesome being them and two women, and are turned off by it being them and another man and a woman. To that, I say, grow up.

Seeing another man having sex with your significant other while you do the same doesn’t somehow make you gay. It means that you’re helping bring a new, different pleasure to the person you love, which really is one of the major points in a relationship.

While a wild flesh-filled orgy of people, as fun as it sounds, might be too much for many, a threesome is just one other person in your sex life.

Hell, it could be some person that neither partner would ever see again. Go on Craigslist, check out the ads there and find some person that’s down to get freaky. You could probably trade them a couch or an old collection of coins or something, whatever it is people on Craigslist are looking for.

Embrace sexuality and don’t dismiss something just because of a social stigma or the perceived bad things that will come from it. Life is all about taking risks and trying new things, otherwise it’s a pretty boring existence.

If it’s not your cup of tea, that is fine. Just know the real reasons you choose not to try something like a threesome and don’t let society decide for you.

Besides, what other time could someone use the term Eiffel Tower outside of talking about the actual tower in Paris? Exactly.

She Said: 

Threesomes, 33 percent of men’s number one fantasy, according to a survey done by Cosmopolitan magazine.

But there are reasons why the whole group sex thing should stay just that, a fantasy. Because in a fantasy world, nothing can go wrong.

How about this. Grow up, stop living in your fantasy world and look at the situation in reality.

The truth about threesomes? They will always leave you in an awkward situation at the end of the day, no matter what that situation may be.

Ask a good friend to join you in the bedroom with your partner, and you risk your partner fancying your friend in the bedroom better than you, and we all know this can lead to jealousy in relationships.

Why take the chance of ending your relationship? If you play with fire, you can most certainly get burned in the end.

Some argue that if your relationship and trust is strong with your partner, then there is no reason why jealousy should crop up.

However, by engaging in threesomes, you are basically telling your partner that it’s okay to have sex with other people. Before you know it, you catch them getting it on with the same person you had the threesome with.

Their outlook is going to be, “well hey, you let them bang me before, what makes this any different?” And you know what, there is really no argument against that. Because you opened up the door to that possibility by initiating or agreeing to a threesome.

Find somebody on Craigslist to help complete the ménage à trois, and well, do I really need to explain that any further? You’re inviting a complete stranger you found over the Internet to engage in sexual activities with yourself and your partner. Not only is that awkward, but way too sketchy.

Besides, what’s the pleasure of watching some other guy nail your girlfriend, or vice versa?

If you’re single, try it out if you want to experiment a little bit. If you’re in a relationship, keep the third guest out of your bedroom.

Besides, most beds aren’t made big enough for three people anyways.