The fact that entertainer Chris Brown beat singer Rihanna doesn’t matter anymore. Not because it’s old news but because women don’t care that getting beat is a bad thing.

Chris Brown being able to perform at the Grammy Awards this year and somehow winning a Grammy wasn’t the most shocking part of the love I’ve seen for him.

Rather, it was the women who were tweeting during the Grammy’s that got the most attention.

Some of the tweets directly from Twitter read, “I’d let Chris Brown beat me up” and “I don’t know why Rihanna complained. Chris Brown could beat me anytime he wanted to.”

There are multiple tweets with similarly disgusting messages hash tagged with “love” and “sosexy.” Some of the tweets were sent with  pictures of the person who tweeted some of these messages.

Was it only the men in our society who were brought up to think that it is wrong to beat women?

Women shouldn’t be going against what society tells us is wrong.

As it is, one in four women will be victims of domestic violence in their lives and most cases are not reported, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Note the word “victim”—domestic violence is not something that is thought of as fun or sexy. And it’s definitely not something that you should ignore because you’re in love—or worse yet, just attracted to someone.

I have lived in a household in the past where there was violence. It isn’t pretty seeing someone hit or abused even in the slightest.

Violence is violence: just because Chris Brown is famous and supposedly attractive, it doesn’t make it glamorous to be beaten by him just to say you were with him.

Women should not degrade themselves by thinking that abuse is something worth dealing with just to feel special. Being with someone famous, attractive or wealthy is not worth it.

If a woman really wants a man to make her feel special, then all she would need is to turn to one of the men in her life for the love, acceptance and self-esteem boost she might need.

Don’t encourage violence; enough people in the world are already being hurt.

Chris Brown tried to clear his own name and is now working with Rihanna on songs.

Rumors on various music and hip hop sites say that rapper Jay-Z is disappointed in Rihanna for defending Chris Brown and hooking up with him again.

Any real man should be. After the huge backlash when pictures of her battered face surfaced online, Rihanna should have been the last person on Brown’s side.

And his image is only getting worse. Most recently, Chris Brown is said to have snatched a woman’s iPhone, yelled at her about not wanting his pictures posted and driven off with it. It doesn’t seem like his anger management classes have paid off.

Don’t make it easier for him to be violent and still be worthy of a woman, especially when the most recent things are taken into account.