Why do people like a jerk?
This is a question I’ve been asking for a long time and more so recently as I observe it within various places including some of my classes.
There seems to be something left behind where people sense this person as being a dominant alpha male type or something similar and wanting to stay in the person’s favor they reward bad behavior with positive attention.
It’s similar to when the women that are treated poorly by these men go out of their way to date those men, yet claiming they want a nicer person.
The nice guy is not what is truly wanted as the jerk is seem as optimal for being in whatever sort of relationship with as they are seen as ‘manly’ and stand up for what they want.
Being a jerk seems to come off as a primal show of masculinity which leads to a lot of the attraction to those sorts of men I believe. They are seen as strong and able to protect even if their way of doing so is detrimental to even those they are supposed to be protecting.
Somehow along the way of humankind and our forward progress it was decided that the wild animal like behavior of the strong or loudest getting all the attention never went away.
The only way to strike out the behavior of the jerks is a simple solution really. Ignore them.
They crave the attention. Without attention everything they do is just a ridiculous display of why they cannot function in society.
Stop paying attention to the class clown that thinks it’s funny to pull a woman’s chair away as they try to sit down.
Turn a blind eye to the person that pushes around those weaker than them just to get their kicks.
As soon as they realize that no one is encouraging their poor behavior they will stop. Not dating those sorts of men if they are not what you are looking for is another way to stop their behavior.
Not all guys that are lumped under the nice banner are weak or passive or easy to walk all over as one might think.
Being assertive and proactive are not the same things as being a jerk.
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